Articles and Insights #Shame

You can understand exactly where a reaction comes from and still find your body responding as though it is happening now. This article explores how counselling, psychotherapy and EMDR can work alongside one another, helping old experiences settle into the past where they belong.

Why grief after pregnancy and baby loss can feel so invisible, what else is lost alongside the baby, and when counselling might help. Written for Baby Loss Awareness Week.

Shame rarely looks like shame. Discover how it hides in everyday behaviour, and what it takes to begin recognising and understanding it.

People-pleasing can be more than difficulty setting boundaries. This insight explores how keeping others happy can become connected with safety, approval and belonging, and why understanding the pattern can create more choice.

People-pleasing is often seen as a problem with boundaries, but what if keeping others happy became a way of feeling safe? This article explores how people-pleasing can become connected with approval, belonging, self-worth and fear of conflict, and why understanding the pattern may be more helpful than simply trying to stop it.

Grief doesn't move in stages, whatever you were taught. It weaves through connection, silence, guilt, and gratitude all at once, and there's nothing wrong with you for finding it non-linear.

You already know what you are supposed to do, and you still cannot seem to do it. This looks at why a clear plan is sometimes not enough on its own, and what counselling reaches that coaching alone was never built to touch, the part of you still holding back.

A grounded and honest reflection on what healing from shame actually looks like, beyond the polished narratives often seen online. This piece explores the subtle ways shame shows up in everyday life, from perfectionism to people-pleasing, and reframes them as protective responses rather than personal flaws.

This reflective blog explores the impact of silent grief and the shame that can follow when loss goes unspoken. Drawing on themes from SANDS Awareness Month, it broadens the lens to include overlooked and ambiguous griefs, offering a compassionate call to honour sorrow in all its forms.

Learn how felt safety supports shame recovery, self-worth, and nervous system healing. Discover the power of authentic honour with Kay Parkinson.